Revive Your Marriage || .your sex life.

disclaimer:  If you are my child and had the courage to open this post, you have been warned to close it and move on to something else.  ;)
Darlene from Time Warp Wife

Courtney from Women Living Well
Sheila from To Love Honor and Vacuum
Jennifer from Unveiled Wife

Each week there will be a devotional and a CHALLENGE.

Here’s the topic schedule for those who want to link up each week:

September 3rd – Revive Your Prayers

September 9th – Revive Your Attitude

September 16th – Revive Your Friendship

September 23rd - Revive Your Praise

September 30th - Revive Your Sex Life

This topic has always been a hard one in our marriage.  We are not the typical couple where the husband wants s*x all the time or initiates all the time.  We are opposite. 

Typically it's the husband who

initiates

desires it

obsesses about it

begs

pleads

can't keep his hands off his wife

thinks about it all day

... but this is me 

Typically it's the wife who

makes excuses

does not desire it

will not initiate

only thinks about how to avoid it

puts it off

doesn't want to be touched

does not think about it at all

... but this is my husband

We are the opposite.  This gets pretty frustrating.  We were designed by God very differently and some of our challenges come with different health challenges and some medicines we are taking.  Finding balance is so hard.  For the typical couple it's hard enough but with us being opposites we have yet to come across a sermon at church or resources which touch on this type of situation.

I know we are not the only one but have yet to come across another couple with such extremes as we are.  If you are in the same boat as us, please  contact me, I'd love to hear how you handle your intimacy and make it work.  We've been married 15 years and still have to work on it.

The challenge for me will be to keep being myself and to pray for my husband and I to have the patience for one another and our differences.

Linking up here.

Revive Your Marriage || .your praise.

Darlene from Time Warp Wife

Courtney from Women Living Well
Sheila from To Love Honor and Vacuum
Jennifer from Unveiled Wife

Each week there will be a devotional and a CHALLENGE.

Here’s the topic schedule for those who want to link up each week:

September 3rd – Revive Your Prayers

September 9th – Revive Your Attitude

September 16th – Revive Your Friendship

September 23rd - Revive Your Praise

September 30th - Revive Your Sex Life


 

5 Things I admire about my husband

He took a leap of faith for his first real relationship to be with a single mom of 3 young kids.

He knows how to take charge and make things work efficiently.

He will sacrifice all things for himself so that we can have what we need and sometimes want.

He is an incredible provider.

He is not easily persuaded and will always stand up for what he knows is right no matter what anyone says.

Linking up here.

Revive Your Marriage || .your friendship.

Darlene from Time Warp Wife

Courtney from Women Living Well
Sheila from To Love Honor and Vacuum
Jennifer from Unveiled Wife

Each week there will be a devotional and a CHALLENGE.

Here’s the topic schedule for those who want to link up each week:

September 3rd – Revive Your Prayers

September 9th – Revive Your Attitude

September 16th – Revive Your Friendship

September 23rd - Revive Your Praise

September 30th - Revive Your Sex Life

This weeks challenge is a tough one.  When my husband and I met, I was a single mom with 3 young kids, all elementary school age.  We don't know what it's like to not have kids around.  My first set of kids are all grown up having families or their own now.  We have 3 little girls ages 7, 5, 3 and we rarely get time alone to build our friendship.  We know it's important but it's really not something we can do in our situation.

When we do interact with friends, I see my husband differently.  To see how he reacts and interacts with others is very intriguing to me.  Since we are surrounded by our little girls all the time, we rarely get to have a conversation without being interrupted, we get cut off, lose our train of thought, nothing gets resolved.  Taking the time to do things together and notice one another is so important.  I feel closer to my husband during these times.  Now we just need to make them happen.

Linking up here.

Revive Your Marriage || .your attitude.

Darlene from Time Warp Wife

Courtney from Women Living Well
Sheila from To Love Honor and Vacuum
Jennifer from Unveiled Wife

Each week there will be a devotional and a CHALLENGE.

Here’s the topic schedule for those who want to link up each week:

September 3rd – Revive Your Prayers

September 9th – Revive Your Attitude

September 16th – Revive Your Friendship

September 23rd - Revive Your Praise

September 30th - Revive Your Sex Life

Love Your Husband by Gloria Baird is a wonderful book.  When I first read it years ago, it changed my perspective so quick on the way I viewed my marriage and my husband.  This is another book I've been wanting needing to read again.  
Topics covered in the book are:

• remember your vow
• a suitable helper
• adult to adult
• effective communication
• hitting the bumps
• attitude is everything
• intimacy for life
• sexual specifics
• and baby makes three, four, five
• enjoying the empty nest

During my 15 years of marriage there has been many challenges.  Yes, there are instances when problems are caused directly because of my husband and vise versa.  I am a firm believer that attitudes can change if you have the right perspective.  Well, lets not say the "right" perspective, lets say a "different" perspective.  I once sat in a church service where the speaker was talking about rose colored glasses.  If you put on a different perspective, they said, your view will be changed.

When I read the book the first time, my husband noticed a huge difference.  My focus was taken off myself and what I wanted needed expected and instead was shifted towards compassion and unconditional love.  I forget that yes, I am a daughter of God but my husband is a son of God and that he chose us for one another.  We are supposed to be united but when our attitude or perception is off, we turn so quickly on one another.
I remember praying for God to bless me with someone.  Being a single mom with 3 young kids, I didn't think I would find someone.  With God all things are possible and eventually came my husband.  We went steady for a year before we got engaged and were married 3-1/2 months later.  I remember the day I knew I wanted to marry him.  It was almost 2 months before he asked me to be his girlfriend.  I remember our wedding day and I could not wait to finally get to spend the night with him and wake up in his arms.  It was a huge deal and I longed for that special feeling of having someone to end the day with and wake up with next to me.

Linking up here.