Revive Your Marriage || .your sex life.

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Each week there will be a devotional and a CHALLENGE.

Here’s the topic schedule for those who want to link up each week:

September 3rd – Revive Your Prayers

September 9th – Revive Your Attitude

September 16th – Revive Your Friendship

September 23rd - Revive Your Praise

September 30th - Revive Your Sex Life

This topic has always been a hard one in our marriage.  We are not the typical couple where the husband wants s*x all the time or initiates all the time.  We are opposite. 

Typically it's the husband who

initiates

desires it

obsesses about it

begs

pleads

can't keep his hands off his wife

thinks about it all day

... but this is me 

Typically it's the wife who

makes excuses

does not desire it

will not initiate

only thinks about how to avoid it

puts it off

doesn't want to be touched

does not think about it at all

... but this is my husband

We are the opposite.  This gets pretty frustrating.  We were designed by God very differently and some of our challenges come with different health challenges and some medicines we are taking.  Finding balance is so hard.  For the typical couple it's hard enough but with us being opposites we have yet to come across a sermon at church or resources which touch on this type of situation.

I know we are not the only one but have yet to come across another couple with such extremes as we are.  If you are in the same boat as us, please  contact me, I'd love to hear how you handle your intimacy and make it work.  We've been married 15 years and still have to work on it.

The challenge for me will be to keep being myself and to pray for my husband and I to have the patience for one another and our differences.

Linking up here.

Spicing Things Up With Husband

So I thought I'd take a tip from Erin from Living In Yellow and make use of some catchy blog titles.  It must work cause you clicked on it!  Thanks Erin!  =)

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This week I made a decision to DO something in my marriage to change things up.  Because of my husband's work schedule and being on a tight budget we are not able to go on regular date nights or even have much time alone.  

I decided to come up with creative ways to encourage my husband. 

Yesterday I sent him a text about his smile.  I didn’t get much of a response for this one.

Today I sent him a text about his faithfulness.  He sent me a text back that said “I love you too” which is progress, for this I am happy.

These are simple things really but with more detail in expressing to him why I think about him in these ways.

Taking the time to do this helps me to have a better perspective on appreciating my husband more by taking the time daily to stop, think about something positive and expressing it in action to him.

I’m excited to try different things to build a stronger unity and intimacy in our marriage by doing simple things that don’t cost a lot of money or time.

What about you?  How do you keep your spouse encouraged and keep the unity and intimacy in your marriage?  I’d love to hear your ideas.  Let me hear them in the comment section.

All my heart,

Salena