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Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Guest Post:: Em @ And Nothing Else Matters and a Giveaway!!


I am so excited to have my first guest blogger here today.
A Little Piece of Me fans; please welcome the lovely Em from

The moment I started reading her Blog I instantly related to the words she spoke.  We are similar in many ways and I am inspired and encouraged by her heart.  I am new to the Blog world but she is one of the amazing beautiful women who have welcomed me with open arms.  Thank you so much Em!



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A huge hello everyone! I am so happy to be here with you all today! I love Salena. She is such a sweetheart isn't she. I was so thrilled when she agreed to give me the opportunity to guest post on her awesome blog! 

Thanks so much Salena!


First let me properly introduce myself. My name is Em and I blog over at And Nothing Else Matters

I am a happily married mum of two from Australia. Yep that's right I was born and raised Down Under. 

The hubby joined the Air Force last year so I am navigating the new world of being a defence wife. I blog about the highs and lows and all the fun in between of juggling marriage and motherhood with distance and demands. The loneliness and hardtimes that came with this whole new lifestyle was one of my main reasons for starting my blog. And I am so glad I did. Blogging has become such a wonderful outlet for me and I have 'met' some amazing people through it. People who have the same fears and feelings as I do.



For as long as I can remember I have stopped myself from doing and trying new things because of my own fears. My own insecurities. In primary school I would look at the high school girls and think, when I'm in high school things would be different. At high school I would see other girls doing things I wanted to and I would think to myself next term or next year, I will do that too. Then I started to think that once I finished school things would be different. I would be older and not in the whole 'school' environment anymore and then I would be able to do all the things I wanted to.

It was a pointless process because, you guessed it, I never did those things and things didn't change.

You see one problem was that I was waiting around for things to change by themselves. Let me just tell you, that is never gonna happen. You cannot go through life sitting silent in the passenger seat and expect the car to take you where you want it to. It's not realistic and it is no fun at all.

The second problem was that I was setting up roadblocks for myself. It was always when I get to a weight I am happy with, when I get the cool clothes, when I get in with the cool crowd, when I get a boyfriend, when I get engaged, when I get married, when I become a mother. You name it I thought it. 

All I was doing was taking the cowards way out. By giving myself these 'rules' about when I could try/attempt/do new things was my fear and anxieties way of making sure I didn't have to do it. It meant I never had to confront the unknown and I didn't have to worry about failing. 

Yet I still felt like a failure, because I always wondered why other people were able to do these things and i wasn't. It was a nasty vicious cycle.

The funny thing was that it actually took me having my daughter for my mindset to change. Hey, don't get me wrong I still have that nasty inner talk with myself, I still struggle with my anxiety and fear of failure. 


How can I tell my daughter she can do anything she puts her mind to, if I am letting my mind talk me out of doing the things that I want to. How can I help shape my daughters self confidence if I am sabotaging my own confidence. How can I encourage my daughter to try new things if I am not willing to myself.

The truth is I CAN"T!

I definitely do not want my own fears, insecurities and anxieties to be mirrored in my precious girl. I am determined to lead my daughter by example. She deserves better than that. One day it just hit me like a tonne of bricks. I am also a daughter. And I deserve better as wellTalk about a light bulb moment. 

I now take steps daily to keep myself in check.

Every time I look in the mirror I find something that I like in what I see and say it out loud. It can be as simple as this lip gloss looks great or this eye shadow brings out my eyes. Trust me it helps.

I make a point of looking at something that I have made or created that I am proud of. It reminds me how capable I am. It can be a flower brooch or my daughters ballet bag. Make sure it is something you really love.

I make a list of what I am thankful for. I used to do this on paper, now I mostly do it in my head while drinking my first cup of coffee for the day. On bad days, I still put pen to paper. We all need to be reminded daily of our blessings.

I make myself do something new every day. Whether its a new recipe, or a new craft, or a scary for me topic on my blog. If I make trying new things part of my daily life, then I can accept that if something doesn't work out it won't hurt me. I just need to move on and try something different.

I believe. I pray. I have faith that there is a plan for me and that this is just all a part of the process that is leading me to where I am going to be. That makes me feel better instantly.

Thank you all so much for letting me share a part of myself with you.

I love discovering new blogs and getting to know the awesome people behind them, so please come on over to And Nothing Else Matters and say hi! 


Now onto the fun stuff. I have an awesome giveaway for you all. The winner can pick anything they like from my Etsy shop.


Dark Purple Fabric Flower Brooch Pin


Reversable Fabric Headband


Ruffled Fabric Sunglasses Case


And with new stock going into the shop over the next couple of days you will have loads of fantastic things to choose from!


*** This Giveaway is now CLOSED, thank you for participating ***

Giveaway Rules
Be a GFC Follower of And Nothing Else Matters - mandatory
Be a GFC Follower of A Little Piece of Me - mandatory
“Like” And Nothing Else Matters on Facebook
“Like" A Little Piece of Me on Facebook
Follow A Little Piece of Me on Twitter
Share about this giveaway on Facebook and/or Twitter or on your blog.


Leave a separate comment below for each one you do,
this gives you 6 possible entries.
While you’re at it, leave a comment and say hi.
Giveaway will end in one week from posting date.
Winner will be announced the following day.
Good luck!
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I have also felt the way Em feels.  Anxiety is a constant struggle in my life; I have been dealing with it daily since I was a little girl.  Being a stay-at-home mother has put my triggers on the back burner.  I too find it challenging having to deal with my anxiety yet be able to back up confidence and security in myself for my kids sake.  Having my kids helps inspire me to push through, some days are better than others but I strive to do more.


Thank you so much Em for sharing your heart with us.


Anything for her shop!?  I wish I could enter!!  Now go enter this awesome giveaway!!!  Good luck!


I'm Blogging over at Em's today, come check me out for another giveaway!!!



click here to visit her blog


All my heart,
Salena

55 comments:

Pidg said...

I follow Em!!!

Pidg said...

I follow Salena! New look! Sah-weeet! ;)

Pidg said...

I follow A little piece of me on twitter...that's how I saw it so fast yay me!

Pidg said...

I follow Em on Facebook!

Pidg said...

I follow/harass ;) Salena on Facebook! I feel like I'm cheating because I already do all of these things cuz I'm lucky! ;) I'm off to go read you Salena over at Em's...so cool!

Karen said...

I follow And Nothing Else Matters

Karen said...

I follow A little Piece of Me

Karen said...

I "like" And Nothing Else Matters" on Facebook

Karen said...

I "like" A little Piece of Me on Facebook

Meesh said...

I follow nothing else matters! :)

Meesh said...

I follow a little piece of me! :)

Meesh said...

I like and nothing else matters

Meesh said...

I like a little piece of me! :)

P.S. Love these games!! :)

Cayte Flood said...

Already follow Alittle piece of me

Cayte Flood said...

Already like Al little Piece of me on FB

Cayte Flood said...

Following All that really matters

Cayte Flood said...

Like All nthat Really Matters on FB

Cayte Flood said...

Sorry I meant Af Nothing Else Matters! Mommy brain working on a hard evening after having to correct my 3 year old son's VERY BAD behaviors resulting in my 3 YEAR OLD SON telling me, "I don't love you anymore Mommy!" All better now but stll shaken up. Sorry Em!

Cayte Flood said...

Geez! I can't do anything right! "And nothing Else Matters" Sorry AGAIN Em!

Lena @ Mom2MemphisAndRuby said...

I'm a follower of And Nothing Else Matters

Lena @ Mom2MemphisAndRuby said...

I'm a follower of A Little Piece of Me

Lena @ Mom2MemphisAndRuby said...

I "like" ANEM on FB

Lena @ Mom2MemphisAndRuby said...

I like "ALPOM" on FB

Lena @ Mom2MemphisAndRuby said...

I follow ALPOM on Twitter! :)

Nay said...

I'm a follower of And Nothing Else Matters

Nay said...

I'm a follower of A Little Piece of Me

Nay said...

I "like" ANEM on FB

Nay said...

I like "ALPOM" on FB

Nay said...

I tweeted! (naycover2cover)

Nicole @ Miss Mommy said...

You know I follow you :)

Nicole @ Miss Mommy said...

I love my bestie Em and follow her :)

Nicole @ Miss Mommy said...

Love Em on Facebook

Nicole @ Miss Mommy said...

I "like" you ;)

Nicole @ Miss Mommy said...

tweet tweet....

Lisa said...

I am a follower of And Nothing Else Matters blog!~ Beautiful giveaway!~
~Lisa @ Organized Chaos

Lisa said...

I am a follower of A Little Piece Of Me's blog too!~
~LIsa @ Organized Chaos

Lisa said...

I "like" And Nothing Else Matters on Facebook!
~Lisa @ Organized Chaos

Lisa said...

I also "like" a little piece of Me on Facebook~!
~Lisa @ Organized Chaos

Lisa said...

I am a new follower of a little piece of me on Twitter!
~Lisa @ Organized Chaos

Lisa said...

I shared on Facebook and tagged you both~!
~Lisa @ Organized Chaos

Lacee said...

Ok ladies this blog swap has done a number on my emotions! I just adore you both. Em, you are brave and beautiful...don't ever forget that :)

I follow Salena!

Lacee said...

I follow Em!

Lacee said...

I like ANEM on fb

Lacee said...

I like ALPOM on fb

Jess@Drops of Motherhood said...

I follow Em

Jess@Drops of Motherhood said...

I follow Salena

Jess@Drops of Motherhood said...

I like em on FB

Jess@Drops of Motherhood said...

I like Salena on FB

Jess@Drops of Motherhood said...

I follow Salena On twitter

Jenae @ Wildflower said...

I follow Em's Blog!

Jenae @ Wildflower said...

I follow selena's Blog!

Jenae @ Wildflower said...

Liked and nothing else matters on Facebook!

Jenae @ Wildflower said...

Like a little piece of me on facebook!

Jenae @ Wildflower said...

and follow a little piece of me on twitter!

Favreau ~ SSC said...

Hi Salena, hope you have a lot of entries for the give away.